My companion and I haven't shared a bed room for 3 years and I can't think about going again to sleeping in the identical mattress

• My fiancé and I moved into an condominium collectively in late 2019. 
• We deliberately seemed for locations with two or three bedrooms so we might have our personal area.
• It’s the greatest determination we made when condominium searching.

When my companion and I had been searching for flats three years in the past, we didn’t predict a worldwide pandemic would hold us trapped in our condominium for months on finish. Our separate doorways and personal personal area felt notably important after we had been each working from house and wanted private time to unwind. 

However three years later, even with places of work opened again up and normal life again to a extra regular state of affairs, I’m so glad we’ve got separate bedrooms and would by no means return to sharing a mattress. 

Having an area that’s simply your personal is integral for decompressing 

One of many greatest advantages is having an area to decompress. My fiancé and I each have other ways we prefer to hold our rooms — I am a neat freak, he is merely not — and I can have my very own personal space that’s saved to my requirements with out having to attempt to mesh our two life collectively right into a cramped area. 

As an alternative, my bed room is my sanctuary the place I can utterly loosen up with out getting irritated by socks left on the ground or a glass of water left over from the evening earlier than. Equally, he does not need to take care of somebody pointing all this stuff out. Win-win. 

Sleeping in a mattress by your self is solely extra comfy 

In case your companion snores, falls asleep with the tv on, or wakes up periodically all through the evening, it is simply not satisfying to sleep subsequent to them. 

For instance, I like to have “Pals” taking part in after I go to sleep. The light comedy of a ’90s sitcom has a sure lull that I discover helps me nod off — my companion, in the meantime, doesn’t suppose a sitcom with amusing monitor and considered one of historical past’s most obnoxious theme songs is conducive to a great evening’s relaxation. I additionally are likely to get up all through the evening and haven’t got to fret if turning a lightweight on to learn will disturb his sleep. 

On the flip facet, my dude snores so loudly it makes it tough to go to sleep within the first place and startles me awake. That is not an satisfying expertise, not to mention when all you need is to have the dulcet tones of “Smelly Cat” taking part in within the background.

Finances considerations could make this tough, but it surely’s no totally different than having a roommate with a separate bed room 

I get that this isn’t sustainable for everybody, notably households the place area is already tight. However for those who’re keen to look in numerous neighborhoods, it is basically like having a roommate with a separate bed room, which is a fairly frequent dwelling state of affairs for lots of younger adults. 

That does not imply my companion and I are roommates in a romantic sense — whereas some consultants would possibly say this will restrict intimacy, to us, getting sufficient sleep and with the ability to have our personal personal areas is nice for our psychological well being, which in flip, is nice for our relationship. 

On the finish of the day, I would extremely advocate it to anybody. The power to shut your personal door and preserve your personal area plus get a greater evening’s sleep is value it, not less than for us.