A TikToker's video of a birthday prank blew up. Now she's compelled to defend her marriage as viewers label her husband's joke a 'crimson flag.'

• A TikToker posted a video of her husband smashing cake in her face at her son’s 1st birthday.
• Some customers accused the husband of insensitivity, whereas others stated the TikToker was within the unsuitable.
• The TikToker urged viewers to not make assumptions and to “be variety” with their feedback. 

A lady has defended a video of her husband smashing cake in her face after viewers stated they had been satisfied it confirmed he was a foul accomplice. 

“The time I wished to choke my husband,” a TikTok consumer from Tampa, Florida, named Candi Mulroy captioned a video posted Might 2, which confirmed the couple singing joyful birthday to their then 1-year-old son Robert. In direction of the top of the clip, Mulroy’s husband picked up the cake and appeared to try to feed some to his spouse, earlier than abruptly smashing it onto her face. 

Mulroy has since stated in a subsequent TikTok submit that the incident befell round a yr in the past, and she or he posted the video of it considering it was humorous to look again on, including that the household has since “moved on.” Within the caption on her unique submit, nevertheless, she talked about that she was upset on the time as a result of she was wanting ahead to taking household images at her son’s social gathering, however they did not find yourself taking any collectively as a result of she needed to bathe to clean the cake off herself. 

“I cried like a child on the recollections misplaced,” her caption continued. 

The video blew up, receiving 6.8 million views in comparison with her earlier movies which had been seen a couple of thousand instances.

Because the clip unfold, it additionally brought on controversy. Some commenters turned in opposition to Mulroy’s husband and accused him of insensitive habits, with some expressing outrage and referring to his actions as a “crimson flag” — a time period used to focus on a damaging signal normally regarding an individual’s habits in a relationship. 

Some commenters even steered that Mulroy ought to think about separating from her husband. “Him humiliating you and discovering pleasure in it is sufficient to go away,” one consumer wrote. 

Different commenters jumped to Mulroy’s husband’s protection, saying they thought he was clearly joking and making an attempt to have some enjoyable. Additionally they accused Mulroy of being “dramatic” in her caption, suggesting her upset response was disproportionate.

Whereas most commenters appeared to take sides, displaying help for both Mulroy or her husband over the video, a handful stated they didn’t assume it was their place to weigh in, and urged Mulroy not to concentrate to the web hypothesis. 

“Do not throw your complete relationship away by taking recommendation from strangers on tiktok. Generally males simply do not get it. He simply did not get it,” one consumer wrote. 

In her feedback part, Mulroy pleaded with viewers to not go away hateful remarks, writing that they had been “weighing on me and my household.”

In a follow-up submit from Might 6 the place she addressed the controversy, she stated she had been struggling to “sustain” with the extraordinary on-line response her submit obtained. 

“This factor has simply develop into an animal of its personal and simply taken off,” she stated. 

Mulroy defended her husband, saying that whereas the pair does generally face relationship points “like another couple,” the criticism is unfounded. “He’s not by any means a shitty father. He is a rattling good daddy,” she stated.

She additionally defended herself in opposition to individuals who steered she was exaggerating or appearing “entitled” along with her remarks, saying she believes she had good motive to be upset in regards to the incident. She defined that she beforehand struggled to conceive, however when she did have a toddler, she was so excited for his first birthday and was upset that she did not get any images from the day. She additionally stated she felt embarrassed about having the cake in her face in entrance of the gang and family members of her husband who she hadn’t beforehand met earlier than. 

She urged commenters to “be variety” and to not learn into her feelings or intentions behind posting the video, saying, “I did not submit it a yr later as a result of I nonetheless have offended points with it.”

Mulroy didn’t instantly reply to Insider’s request for remark. 

On TikTok, movies posted by {couples} usually go viral, and may generally trigger intense controversy when viewers spot what they consider to be “crimson flags” between them. Commenters have been identified to intensely analyze an individual’s habits or physique language in a viral video to help their theories about whether or not they’re a superb accomplice. 

In April, a British TikToker defended her accomplice from on-line hate after she posted a photograph of him watching sports activities whereas she was in labor, main viewers to counsel he was uncaring. Final yr, a school couple additionally confronted intense on-line scrutiny over a video of them reuniting after a couple of months aside. Commenters steered the boyfriend’s physique language within the clip confirmed he was uncomfortable, and this spiraled into theories that he was dishonest on her, which the couple stated had been completely unfaithful. 

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