I reside out of my SUV and journey across the nation. I fall in love with somebody new in each metropolis I go to.

• I am a humorist who travels the nation in my SUV.
• In each metropolis I go to, I fall for somebody and weasel my means into their lives for a day or two. 
• However in Asheville, I met a lady who taught me love girls and let individuals in. 

I’ve at all times been somebody who cannot keep in a single place. Some name it trauma, I name it la joie de vivre. For those who do not know, meaning “the enjoyment of life” in French — no less than that is what Google tells me.

Final 12 months, I ended a relationship with a associate I had been dwelling with, and I used to be determining the place I might land subsequent. I used to be in a tough scenario, as a result of I used to be about to start out my solo stand-up present, Hen, about my traumatic and quirky childhood. I had pop-up tour dates everywhere in the nation, so I wanted to determine how I might make all of it work. 

Whether or not it was mania or pure genius, the subsequent factor I knew, I used to be double-parked in my Brooklyn neighborhood, ripping the again seats out of my SUV. I “constructed out” my SUV to make it livable, and by that I imply I put a plank of wooden within the again and slapped a mattress on it. I stuffed all of my belongings and necessities within the crevices and put my disabled canine — she was damaged after I obtained her, I swear — within the again together with her wheelchair. 

I hit the open street. Since then, I’ve traveled throughout the nation doing stand-up and dwelling out of my modestly sized automobile. Alongside the way in which, I fell for somebody new in each metropolis. However after I fell in love with a girl in Asheville, North Carolina, all the pieces modified. In a single evening, she grew to become the primary lady I ever brazenly and proudly beloved.

As I traversed the nation, I began to fall for somebody in each metropolis

I known as myself a “serial connector,” which is the douchiest approach to say I used to be seeing lots of totally different individuals whereas I used to be homeless. I do not suppose you’ll be able to say it was polyamory; it was much less organized than that. It was like I used to be taking part in “home” with somebody totally different every week. I used to be sleeping in their mattress, hanging out with their pals, and going to their favourite spots on the town.

After I left their metropolis, they had been simply one other lover, and I had lovers all through the nation. Some I might write to recurrently, others I might discuss to for hours on the telephone, and a few would solely final an evening or two. 

Most of those mini, quasi-relationships weren’t all about intercourse. They had been about studying and observing the distinctive life that particular person had chosen to reside. Generally, although, it was about needing a free bathe. 

However someday I met a girl in Asheville who needed to expertise my life

I’ve recognized as queer since 15, however I at all times felt the necessity to conceal the truth that I like girls, too. That was till I met a lady who was within the viewers at certainly one of my reveals in North Carolina. 

She had lengthy, golden hair, tattoos throughout her arms, and smiled at nearly all the pieces I stated. I wasn’t saying something groundbreaking, however she had this releasing feeling about her. 

She was totally different than all the opposite individuals I fell for throughout my journey. As a substitute of compressing my means into their lives, this lady needed to know what my life was like. She stated it will be “enjoyable” if we tried tenting within the automobile collectively one evening. I believed it is perhaps “enjoyable” if we slept in her queen-size mattress collectively at her precise home, however it was additionally the primary time somebody needed to see into my world. It excited me. 

We spent one evening collectively, and I brazenly fell in love together with her

That evening I needed to point out her how I eat on the street. We went to Dealer Joe’s and gathered nonperishables. I held her hips within the aisles whereas she picked out the quinoa. OK, that is the gayest sentence I’ve ever written. 

I had by no means proven affection in public with a girl earlier than. It was scary, however she confirmed me how light and straightforward love could be.

We made our dinner on my propane range — I watched her tenderly screw the propane in and have a good time when it turned scorching. It was like watching two of my companions make love to one another: the nomadic life-style and her. It turned me on.

On the finish of the evening, the hatch of my SUV needed to stay barely open to accommodate 4 ft and two working paws. It was nearly unattainable to sleep in such a state of discomfort, however after I awakened, the troubled evening was forgotten. We had been within the timber, the river was working, the birds had been chirping, and this lady was getting annoyed attempting to construct a fireplace. I confirmed her how. 

As a substitute of forming a relationship, we obtained precisely what we wanted from one another

The pleased ending to this homosexual love story ought to be that we purchased a sprinter van, we ran off to the woods collectively, and I grew to become well-known off of TikTok or one thing. However alas, vans are costly and TikTok is difficult.

After I left her that morning, I kissed her goodbye. It wasn’t unhappy; it was stunning. We discovered a lot from one another: She now is aware of construct a fireplace and the way nice the nomad life could be. I now know what it looks like to like a girl proudly and let individuals in — irrespective of how cramped the area is perhaps.