Jon Bon Jovi says he approves of his 20-year-old son's engagement to 19-year-old Millie Bobby Brown. A therapist agrees that younger love can succeed.

  • Jon Bon Jovi’s 20-year-old son Jake Bongiovi seems to be engaged to 19-year-old actress Millie Bobby Brown.
  • In an interview, Andy Cohen requested Bon Jovi if he was “apprehensive” about them getting engaged younger.
  • A therapist informed Insider that younger individuals can have profitable marriages in the event that they’re dedicated to understanding one another and themselves.

“Stranger Issues” star Millie Bobby Brown, lately shared an Instagram posted suggesting she’s engaged to Jon Bon Jovi’s son, 20-year-old Jake Bongiovi. 

Brown and Bongiovi confirmed that they have been courting in November 2021. Brown’s April 11 Instagram submit, which incorporates a image of them embracing and Brown sporting a shiny ring, is filled with feedback from followers debating whether or not the starlets are too younger for marriage.

The talk continued when Bongiovi’s father, Jon Bon Jovi, went on Andy Cohen’s radio present on Could 2, the place Cohen requested Bon Jovi if he was “apprehensive” concerning the couple’s engagement, contemplating their younger ages, Insider’s Palmer Haasch beforehand reported.

“I do not know if age issues, you already know, if you happen to discover the proper associate and also you develop collectively. I feel that may be my recommendation, actually, is rising collectively is sensible. Rising collectively,” Bon Jovi informed Cohen. “And so, I feel that each one of my children have discovered the people who they suppose they’ll develop along with, and we like all of them.”

Bon Jovi may very well be onto one thing, in response to Moraya Seeger DeGeare, a {couples} therapist and in-house relationship knowledgeable for the intimacy-building app Paired.

Regardless of youthful {couples} having much less lived expertise, they’ll generally be extra insightful and relationship-ready than older {couples}, stated DeGeare, who has endorsed {couples} who’re 19 in addition to those that are many years older.

She stated {that a} marriage could be lovely and wholesome whatever the couple’s ages, as long as each companions present a willingness to know one another, the flexibility to beat arduous instances as a workforce, and a dedication to self-growth.

The way you get by means of arduous instances is extra essential than age, a therapist says

In accordance with DeGeare, how a pair navigates the not-so-fun moments of their relationship could be a large indicator of their marriage potential, whether or not a pair is of their twenties, eighties, or someplace in between.

She stated that if a pair can resolve conflicts in a wholesome method — listening to one another out with out turning into defensive, discovering methods to compromise, and offering help — it is a signal they belief one another and may evolve collectively.

“Lots of us can have friendships and relationships when it is simple, however the arduous moments actually present us who individuals are and if we will rely on them,” DeGeare stated.

Although younger individuals are much less more likely to expertise the dying of a dad or mum, job loss, or transferring to a brand new metropolis collectively, there are many moments when 20-somethings should be taught to navigate massive adjustments and harsh realities, DeGeare stated. She stated that folks divorcing, a beloved one getting identified with an sickness, or a dying within the household are a couple of examples of robust moments a youthful couple might should navigate.

And since Brown and Bongiovi are younger celebrities, they’ve probably weathered tougher and “grown-up” moments than the common 19- or 20-year-0ld, she stated.

Being weak and curious with one another is an indication you’ll be able to develop collectively

Exterior of main difficulties and milestones, a dedication to common curiosity and vulnerability is an indication a younger couple is heading in the right direction, in response to DeGeare.

She urged companions ask themselves, “Do I really feel like I am nonetheless getting nearer to my associate?” as their relationship continues to make sure they’re dedicated to intimacy, not simply going by means of the motions of a partnership.

“It isn’t, ‘Oh we will go to the flicks collectively, we research collectively, we pay payments collectively,’ however actually seeing if you happen to like how your relationship retains progressing,” DeGeare stated.

She stated that these moments can occur throughout battle decision or when a associate is weak in asking for one thing they want, because it reveals that companions respect themselves and one another.

Intimate progress can occur throughout completely happy instances too, whenever you’re spending high quality time collectively or sharing treasured reminiscences or deep ideas, stated DeGeare. She stated that if one thing thrilling occurs to you and also you instantly wish to share along with your associate, that is a great signal.

“All of those little joyful moments of connection construct intimacy. In case you’re good at it and your associate’s good at it, you could possibly construct an actual relationship from an appropriately younger age,” DeGeare stated.